Thoughts on Intimacy

As someone who has been a therapist for 14 years, I realized how much I took for granted the deeper intimacy I was engaging in on a daily basis that “normal” people only experience occasionally. Because of the work that I do, it became almost second nature to go deep, to explore in partnership with clients, as a fellow traveler on the road to growth and empowerment.

My clients were gifting me insights also–opportunities to grow and evolve as both a therapist and a human. My clients often mirror expat what I need to hear in my own personal life–and in this way, the intimacy exchange in our profession is often taken for granted when we’ve been doing it for a long period of time.

To some that are NOT therapists, this may sound strange to imagine having deep intimate moments on the daily–and it could almost feel overwhelming when not used to it. I know I had to “acclimate” energetically to it for the first year or two for sure, and the deeper I went within myself, the deeper I was able to meet my clients.

BUT, dare I say that even some therapists do not access a depth of intimacy within themselves–not because they don’t want to, but because it really isn’t emphasized or even valued in traditional psychology and western academia.  The focus and value is placed on the approaches, the modalities, and the “tricks” to make change in a client’s life….but it is rarely emphasized to learn how to sit with OURSELVES to really learn that intimacy with another, first requires “INTO-ME-I-SEE”....the practice of sitting with oneself in unconditional love and acceptance. To be the nurturing adult to your own inner child first.  To apply all of the love and self-care to yourself first, before asking your clients to do this.

I would also dare to say that most therapists are HUNGRY for ways to connect more deeply with themselves as well as others. We are generally a lonely profession, especially those in private practice. This is a huge reason this profession is BURNING OUT and why so many of us are seeking alternative ways of being of service, so that we can claim vibrant, abundant lives for ourselves.

How we up-level in this profession is that we radically shift our values–to prioritizing self intimacy, deeper embodiment, and developing our natural intuition. Therapists are some of the most natural intuitives I’ve ever met!! And most of them would never call themselves this–but the amount of attunement they do on the daily begins to develop areas of the brain that any other human would have to work years to develop with other practices.

I am so excited about making this more accessible to individuals all over the world, who are hungry to connect with other like-minded professionals who are also seekers of deeper embodiment and intuition!

These workshops truly feed my soul, I absolutely LOVE connecting with you all. Please reach out with any questions.

I hope to meet you on the journey!
Warmly,
Jess